6 Things You Must Know Before Trying Bondage S*x with Your Partner...Take Note of No 6

Many people who are engaging in bondage s*x have been urged to follow this six things to make it a memorable one. 

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Before you ever think about engaging in bondage s*x, here are some of the things you need to know to avoid any risk.

 

1. Want to get tied up in knots?

Tying each other up is one of the easiest ways to get turned on. You can give it some verbal-play telling them: once you’re tied up I’ll do my evil bidding with you!

 

Tease them as they squirm with pleasure. Just don’t tie them up with knots!

 

Always tie with bows which are easy to undo or invest in safe straps/ties from an adult shop.

 

Top tip: Once tied up, drizzle massage oil over their pleasure-zones. Gently stroke your fingertips through it, exciting!

 

2. How kinky do you want to go?

Take it easy as you don’t want to freak them out as you reveal your new 50-shades side.

 

If you’re dying to paddle their bottom, approach it tactfully.

 

Agree that you’ll go gently. They can always take the paddle to you if you don’t!

 

Top tip: Play fair – suggest that you both take turns revealing what kinky things you want to try.

 

3. Want to bark orders at them?

Fantasising you’re the master and they’re your slave might excite you – you can’t wait to bark raunchy orders at them.

 

Problem is, one survey found the majority of partners were turned off when their partner suddenly talked dirty.

 

Top tip: As you two enjoy kissing and caressing ask them if there are certain off-limit words or phrases that would turn them off. Respect this.

 

4. Want to whip up excitement?

If you’re going to whip your partner, never do so near their face – you don’t want to take their eye out. Wearing a pirate patch for a pirate role-play is one thing, but a real patch is quite another.

 

Also don’t accidentally whip their genitals.

 

5. Trying some hanky-spanky?

Remember you can’t spank any given area for more than a few minutes or you risk bruising them.

 

They want to be able to sit down at work the next day without groaning for the wrong reason.

 

Top tip: They should be relaxed and comfortable. Then you can gently start spanking their bottom. Move around the fleshy areas. Ask them if you need to go softer or firmer.

 

6. Coded messages

It’s crucial to agree a code word for when you want to stop sex-play like being tied-up, spanked, etc.

 

And because you might use dirty talk in role-plays, choose a neutral word as a code that means you want to stop.

 

Something like ‘pineapple’ so it’s not confused with red-hot, role-play sex-chat.

 

Top tip: Dream up fantasy scenarios to help your bondage play. One survey found this gave people confidence to share things they found really hot.

 

Try the scenario that you’re lonely strangers who meet in a bar…and are up for anything even being tied up.

 

Bondage play gives you lots of opportunities for cheeky banter to keep things flirty: “You tied up today,” you ask knowingly.